Whew! I knew I had an opinionated bunch around here!
Thank you all for your lovely, impassioned thoughts and ideas. I'm tucking all of them in my pocket, to pull out when I need them - and it makes me wish that all my favorite bloggity friends could come to the wedding and reception, just to really SEE and experience everything. You could have your own table!
As the gorgeous home-owner Bluepoppy said, I've been pretty mum about the whole wedding deal. It's taken awhile for the wedding fever to hit me. I've been bogged down in budget woes, waiting patiently for that to get worked out, (and now it is) besides, I'm a bit of a procrastinator. (The obligatory understatement of the year.) Not that weddings are something to procrastinate over, but really, I knew where I wanted the ceremony, the reception (I thought!) and booked everything on the church calendar in February. I started looking for photographers; I already knew who and what I wanted from the florist. And there are some things (as I just read last night in a Martha Stewart wedding magazine) that you shouldn't do too early, in case you change your mind or things don't work out.
Thank you, Martha Stewart magazine! It's nice to know I'm doing something kinda right!
However, I've decided, with the help of the Wild Women Wedding Team I've assembled, to have the reception at the fellowship hall. And I'm really okay with it, very excited even. I'm going to break it down for you -
1. My original location? I've been to weddings/receptions there where there were roughly 150-200 people there - and it was CRAZY. Good, but crazy. People everywhere, eating in corners, and things going on downstairs and people not knowing it upstairs. There will be around 250 at my reception. That place was going to look like a Dr. Seuss book gone wrong! And did I mention that it had limited parking as well?
2. The dream location - if they call me before the invitations are printed, it's a possibility. Would be wonderful, and I'm sad that I didn't know months ago that it was so affordable. Of course, it's a very popular place to have events, so who is to say it hasn't been booked for a year. I can't cry over spilt mock champagne now.
3. Guess what? There's a football game the day of my wedding. Like, two hours after the wedding. The university is right across the (busy highway) road from the church. I'm going to have a grumpy guy be on parking lot patrol. This really doesn't have anything to do with the reception, but it's possible I may lose the die-hard football fans after the wedding. FINE THEN.
4. Finally, the fellowship hall. Really, if you're picturing something dank and dark, erase that. It's not a big endless room, but definitely large enough for the crowd I hope and expect. And it does have some sentimental value for us - the very first church service we attended was held there, since renovation was being done in the sanctuary. (As I recall, we made fun of the curtains.) But, we're going to turn off the flourescent lights and use plenty of candles and lamps, transform the two pesky center poles into toparies/trees surrounded by food tables, and did I mention there's a stage? for dancing? Most of all, I want for the guests to be comfortable, to be able to see everything, for all the old folks (like my Grandpa) to not worry about stairs. We're going to lock the doors and put signs up so that no one can walk through it on the way to sanctuary - which give me the opportunity to indulge all my wishes for rustic signs that say 'Wedding'.
So, I'm happy. I'm happy that the guests can take two steps and be there. They can start eating all the yummy food and visit with old friends and make new ones. As long as they leave me some bread pudding, all will be well.